I made it very clear why I'm bothered by the black national anthem, although I would argue against the idea that I consider it a big deal.
I would say that I'm bothered "so much" by the fact that I can't ever seem to get answers to what I believe are fair questions. People state opinions that seem to be riddled with problems, but they also don't want to be accountable for explaining themselves well enough to clear up those problems.
I'm bothered "so much" that you can introduce the idea that bad behavior in the past justifies bad behavior in the present and then make a random, false claim about my opinion of Rihanna. To be clear, I'm not bothered at all about the false claim. I'm bothered because it seems like a distraction technique to steer the conversation in another direction. (It worked. Well done.)
And mostly, I would prefer if people would just respond with " I don't know, man" rather than lead me down a rabbit hole where I learn literally nothing. You don't have to care about thos topic. You responded, I thought you might have a unique perspective. Instead, you just leave me with even more questions and another example that people are mostly just acting by reacting.