can't recall a time when they went on about the Troubles...basically they 'Said Nothing'...not that they didn't recount their environment involving helicopters flying overhead day and night, or armed soldiers stopping anyone/anytime they wanted...but it wasn't an emotional conversation...and I didn't probe them for deeper insights or experiences.. now they are comfortable in being able to go where and when they want, and do as they please, while looking forward. One of my cousins has built a very successful engineering business and his kids are very upbeat about their futures.
As a sidelight, my MIL of Irish descent and a fantastic woman, would not set foot on English soil...not even to save money on a cheaper airfare that involved a stop at Heathrow before getting to Dublin...could be due to her recollections of growing up in Kansas and being called a "Catlicker" by local Protestant kids...gave her an appreciation for what Northern Irish kids had to endure.