best medical institutions (e.g. Mayo Clinic, Boston Children's Hospital, UCLA Hospital, etc., etc.) have developed analyses, assessments. treatments and protocols for dealing with Gender Dysphoria...because those people need 'Evidence Based' Medical and Psychiatric Care that will not only allow them to live a happier life, but also keep them from committing suicide...which is well documented. Fortunately, the results for those who choose Gender Affirming Surgeries have an extremely low "Regret Rate"...and there are many such people walking among us that can testify to that.
The more you cling to an impossible belief that mere counseling will solve all problems, the worse it gets for them. Right now, you're not helping...be willing to accept that nature isn't always perfect, and human interventions can make for better outcomes.
Attached is a data centric review of the Transgender population and Gender Surgeries...please read it and at least understand the scope of the situation.
Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6626314/