You have to make choices that work for everyone...where the kids will interact without fighting, just for example.
We used to do a mostly included resort every year...actually, "resort" is a strong word for a rustic back woods lodge with limited cell coverage and school cafeteria style food...but the kids loved it, and they ran free all around the extensive property with their cousins (swimming, boating, horses, hikes, campfires, and just being free to invent your own play, which so many kids, it seems, don't do these days...). I'm sure people could make fun of that place, since it was a bit low brow...it was not for everyone, but it worked great for our family. Few things better than being able to relax, knowing that even if your kids are out of sight, they are safe and enjoying unstructured play time with extended family, building familial relationships that this mobile society seems to work against.