What is really difficult for some to reconcile is the insanity across the entire political spectrum.
Positions/activities that get airtime such as "Defund the Police", or monument shaming or riots just create space for individuals on the other side.
I was with extended family last week and even in vigorous debate there were comments like "I was convinced that I would vote for anyone but Trump but now I don't know" or "I'm just not voting, they are all idiots"...
The reasoned discussion is hard to find.