On both sides, stop chasing the "shiny object" and set a path that is both reasonable and does not rely on the fact that other guy is an idiot.
As point one above - The president supports the rebel flag
I think that the vast majority of us could get behind banning that flag as it is a symbol of hate. I'm not sure this has always been the case. Don't think that "Dukes of Hazard" was promoting the KKK or white supremacy, but that could just be my ignorance. As someone who grew up in Louisville Ky, the use of the flag was more about fishing and hunting than race, but again I can't speak for all. Certainly, it has a different meaning today, and if we accept that point then I think we can accept that it should be removed from public/gov't locations. The leap to monument destruction creates a backlash against what I feel is a very reasonable position.
I could take the same view on "Build a wall and Mexico is going to pay for it" - overreach for a reasonable discussion regarding immigration reform.
Police reform, sure... Defund the police overreach
And you? what are your solutions?