The problem is they are being told, people who are damaged in some way, that this is the avenue to achieve said joyfulness. And it is profoundly misleading and only leads to more unhappiness.
Your story is only one side of this. I used to work with a wonderful attorney. Smart caring great looking - like you and Frank. She was gay, met her kids. Met her wife. Lovely family. The wife decided one day that she was a he. The turmoil, strife and ultimate destruction of the family is the stuff of legends. We have a very good friend, her daughter decided she's a boy. We've babysat the kid...she's not a boy. Absolutely ripped the family to pieces- mom dad grandparents uncles aunts! No one was left untouched by the trauma. It's devastating! I think that is far more the norm than what you've portrayed. Yes people do seek happiness. This is not how it's achieved. Not by a long shot.
Listen you seem like affable fellow. It's likely we disagree on a great deal. It's likely we agree on a great deal too. But this stuff is the making of nightmares. I feel sorry for those that engage in it.
Forgive typos. Sent from phone.