minutes. It shouldn't be a big deal to anyone. I try to give a lot of minutes to all the kids, but the kids seem to understand, as my generation did, that not everyone is equal in ability. Every kid wants to win, and sometimes that means that the best players will play more. It's a valuable lesson that teaches some humility and that being a teammate is more than just how many points you score.
I'm lucky. I'm in a rural area with cultural norms that generally reinforce politeness. Having been at a much bigger school, I know how it is most places and that I am in an exception.
If your child is a college prospect, I don't have a problem with traveling teams/AAU and the like. The problem is that we have parents dropping $10K plus to travel around the region, transporting kids who overwhelmingly are not D1 or D2 material by a longshot. The parents are delusional. For the vast majority, their kids' sports careers end when they graduate high school. The time and money spent gallivanting around the Midwest is foolish and their kids could be doing other things during these periods.