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First and foremost, in my mind, is dating apps. As a concept, they can be great - much more efficient than approaching people randomly and hoping that they're single/available and interested in you. They're only on these applications to meet someone. A great way to connect to others who are, in theory, looking for what you are. The downside is that there is zero "room for error." One miscommunication, cancellation, or mistiming and someone can miss what would have been a potentially solid connect. And, if the first meet-up isn't mind-blowing, there's no "need" to give a second look, because you can just keep swiping away. Anecdotally from stories, it sounds like patience in getting to know someone is in short supply. Worse, some get addicted to the rush of all of the attention and forget what they originally wanted, which is a chance at a long-term relationship. It can be human nature to still be holding out for the next best thing. This goes both ways, and it would be wrong to pin it on men or women as culprits.

Second, radical feminism has not been good for women and marriage/family. They're blasted with messages from Western Society that they deserve to "have it all" their entire lives, and that making sacrifices to have families is some evil, patriarchal concept. This is how we get to tragic situations where women freeze their eggs at age 30 and then circle back at 45 to find that these modern medical solutions have significant failure rates, and that it's now too late. Or that establishing big-time executive careers is their first priority, and that they should consider settling down at 35 after they've "made partner" or achieved whatever abstract ideal they need to accomplish has been completed. The problem is that then, they still have to start the process of finding someone who wants to settle down with them and connect their lives when over 90% of their eggs are gone.

Third, as a corollary to #2, there is too much messaging that wanting a family is a silly, antiquated, Stockholm Syndrome relic of a patriarchal prison. One can argue as to the reasoning behind this all you want.

I'm like: that's a unicorn!

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The human desire for sex and for inter-personal relationships is dulled by the ability to have porn stars in your own bedroom, and the ability to put the headphones on and play games and chat with your buddies online. This kind of feeds into or reinforces the instant gratification theme. I just think there is less of a desire to go out. When I was young, I was always in search of a party, or a place to go...and so was everyone else, so we were all searching for connections through direct personal interactions. I don't see that with the upcoming generation...at least, I see it much less. A buddy of mine said his daughter is wondering where the men are...she can't meet anyone. (And just so you know, I've met his daughter, and the problem is definitely not her.) While this may not be uniformly true, I do think it is statistically significant. Porn & electronics were ubiquitous in Japan first, and their population started crashing first. Korea, the US and the West have followed the Japanese model.

I'm setting aside China because their population crash is because of heinous government policies, and doesn't apply to the West. China is 1984, where oppression leads to the problem. The US and Western Nations are Brave New World, where the pursuit of instant & easy pleasure leads to the problem.

There seems to be a lot of attractive, lonely women in their twenties. And I think a part of the reason is the whole me too. Craziness caused a lot of young men to give up on real women.

I'm not directing this post at you, because I know you don't buy into the Church. I'm just making a general comment based on my faith journey, for general consumption.

When I was younger, I used to think that the Church went a little overboard in opposing what seemed like harmless side effects of porn. What's the big deal, I thought.

Now, as I see the harmful individual and societal effects of porn, I think, "Wow...how did the Church know?"

Answer: It didn't know this would happen. It was just sticking to core teachings...which turned out to be far more insightful than maybe even many in the Church realized. I have a new appreciation for the harm of "victimless sins" (and therefore for the Church's long standing opposition to them), as those victimless sins actually heavily victimize the participant when repeated over time.

I'm of the "addiction starts with pain and ends with pain" opinion in general.

Males used to have to "use" magazines/films that they purchased (or swiped from their old man) to satisfy these urges in the absence of a partner. Then it evolved to be purchased and downloaded, but they still needed an empty room with a V.C.R. or a computer and monitor.

In the last 15 years, however, it can simply be streamed on demand for free from any device that can connect to the internet for free, 24 hours a day. For many, that diminishes the appetites for the effort that comes with building an intimate connection with another person. It also rapidly elevates the hurdle for what's required just to arouse many men beyond what a normal intimate relationship tends to provide.

It isn't good. At all.

I don't know what it would be like to be 14 and have round-the-clock boob access at your fingertips.

I'm surprised they get anything done.

And to think that a JC Penny catalogue was once a teenage age boy's erotic material.

I used to think it was a bad thing. Now I can't imagine what my G.P.A. would have been with that much available on-demand, and I'm glad I didn't have to find out. I doubt my teenage discipline would have overcome it.

Japan and China have cultural issues with non-ethnic immigration, while Russia seems to favor "Forced Immigration'...e.g. its attempt to "acquire' Ukraine.

Thanks for highlighting Trump's stupidity...and campaign to 'Take America Down'.

Historically, immigrants to the US mourned the loss of their birthlands and went out of their way to make their children become "Americanized."

NOT ANYMORE!

Today they tend to cling to their old cultures and their kids grow up no holding the US in high esteem.


Link: https://www.hoover.org/research/migration-remaking-europe-there-workable-path-forward-continent

America growing and prospering has been working just fine...if you hop on a plane and revisit CA and the rest of the West Coast, you'll find that immigrants speaking over 100 languages are assimilating just fine...case in point...our second generation Vietnamese owned car repair center is constantly flooded with cars from all over the area, and when you call them on the phone you wouldn't know they came from another country...they sound, talk and act just like folks whose families have been here for a hundred years.

America was built on Immigration...ALL of us are descendants of Immigrants...it's in our national DNA...unlike European and most other long established countries...they are very much 'Insular'...and therefore less welcoming to 'outsiders'...just like Japan and China.

If you go to Dearborn, Michigan you can see that assimilation is not exactly "on track."

And in Europe it's been a disaster.

Economic Suicide to halt Immigration...what alternative would you suggest?

Specifically, "Reagan supported immigration" = "Only ignorant xenophobes don't support the Biden-era flow of illegal migrants."

Don't waste your time with this. This isn't an attempt at a serious discussion.

Long history of bipartisan support for Immigration...until Trump.

Are you Anti-American?


Link: https://www.bushcenter.org/catalyst/north-american-century/benefits-of-immigration-outweigh-costs

We do know that you here pushing an agenda from whatever sackless group is branched out from the regressive party to push propaganda. That much has been fully exposed, as you're not a Notre Dame grad, and you're not this silly identity you've tripped over numerous times trying to claim. You may be from somewhere overseas, but you haven't slipped up to show that yet.

And I'm not addressing your stupid false equivalence that you've tried again to push out.

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You are a perfect Soros puppet.

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it happening?

Have you even thought about those questions?

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Of course he is in favor of illegal immigration.

the one Biden got passed in the Senate at the beginning of 2024? That's the only way funding can be established for meaningful long-term changes...like 1,500 more CBP Officers...more Immigration Judges to reduce the time for "Documentation" from 6+ years to less than 6 months...100+ HIgh Tech/High Volume Fentanyl Scanners at our Border Checkpoints...greater scrutiny of Asylum seekers...caps on the number of entry requests, etc.

BTW, I've posted how DJT called for Congress to FINALLY pass such a bill in 2019...then killed Biden's bipartisan Senate Bill in 2024...and STILL hasn't done a thing about it in spite of havoing both Houses of Congress...doesn't that seem odd to you?

Basically, you're a waste of server space.on this site...just thought I'd state the obvious ;-)

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point them out...or are you too lazy to do even that? ;-)

btw, looks like a fantastic bill to me...way better than what Trump called for from Congress in 2019.

While I've got your attention...any ideas on how we can accelerate pregnancies and child rearing to meet our adult worker shortage?


Link: https://www.lankford.senate.gov/issues/calling-out-bidens-chaos-at-the-southern-border-pushing-to-secure-the-us-from-bad-actors-around-the-world/

You are free to find my distaste with it on here. I'm not rehashing to accomodate your laziness.

As for Lankford, his intentions were good, but stupid. He felt that it was a good first step and was "at least something" to start to address the problem. His misguided ambition on it was his inability to see what the left tried to force in. The G.O.P. was correct to squash it.

Nothing new was needed to secure the border.

Trump asked for in 2019?...

I'm not holding my breath for an intelligent reply from you, Pa...carry on.

to conduct Immigration properly is through Congressional action...like Trump called for in 2019 when Democrats had control (we can discuss why it didn't happen after Trump's call...short answer DJT's "Border Wall" spending that even Republicans wouldn't support)

Finally, in 2024 Biden worked with rational Republicans in the Senate and got a bipartisan bill passed...only to be killed by Trump so as to keep his #1 campaign issue alive. Note that he still hasn't asked Congress to come up with a Bill...Weird, isn't it, when he has control over the House and Senate.

Are you paying any attention to what' going on here?

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Live for your personal moment and fuck anything beyond that.