Why did our generation turn out to be the one that implemented and institutionalized so many failed parenting strategies? Was it really that the "Latchkey Generation" moved to the opposite pole in raising their own kids or is it something else?
Note: please spare everyone the obligatory "I know a bunch of Gen X parents who aren't helicopter parents!"
Link: https://www.si.com/nfl/2019/06/19/snowplow-parents-sports
entire generation?
Perhaps it is still an accurate observation, but if so, it is likely related to the internet connection that these parents of kids make with each other, and the ideas that they share that previously were isolated.
Overinvolved. Overprotective. Acting like a friend or peer instead of a parent. (The only child psychologist to whom I will listen: "If your child likes you all the time, you're parenting very badly.") Blaming other adults for the failures of their kids. I could go on. When I ask kids if the "helicopter parent" accusation is accurate, they overwhelmingly say yes and they also overwhelmingly say they wish it wasn't this way. Something went very wrong with my generation and I can't explain exactly how it happened.
Maybe the loony parents have gone from 3 to 5 percent or so. But 1 in 20 is enough to ruin a little league game.
I don't care of the child is in the NBA, or CYO.
Get a life.
My grandson is 10 years old and plays baseball. He's obsessed with it as are most of he kids on his team. I love to watch and listen to practice, hear the new generation's jargon, listen to explanations of things, hear talk about teachers and coaches from other teams. Now, admittedly, I'm retired so I have time to do these things, but still, I do have a life representing vets for free in court, getting photographs published, taking a class now and then at UCLA, and enjoying the many other family members.
I got a life, my man.
teens.
Parents weren’t allowed to attend (a very smart rule), but this older (than dirt) guy was a grandparent of one of the players and the dude just liked soccer.
Turned out that he was also a German who fought in WW II. Guy really knew the sport and was fun to talk to at games. Claimed he never said a word at practice which was prolly true knowing those coaches.
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There is nothing "certifiable" about attending your child's practice. You'll have to trust me on this, but it's possible to attend practices and not behave like Tim McGraw from Friday Night Lights.
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I try to balance it out by being completely free range while urging her to cut the cord. By the time I was 12, my sons age, I could change oil in a tractor, build a minnow trap from scrap materials, skin a raccoon and make myself pancakes for breakfast from scratch. Maybe my son doesn't need to know those things, but the difference in independence and self-reliance is significant.
This Haskins and similar situations are way beyond though. It's more of a situation of parental greed, IMO.
I just stand there--no reaction at all--observing (quietly looking for blood).
Mom comes running to see if the kid is OK.
Kid starts crying.
In that order.
If the wife weren't around, my kids would have dusted themselves off and moved on so many more times.
He was very proud of himself for not crying. "I am getting tougher, dad." Well, well, well... Maybe we find a way, I didn't encourage him to become "tougher" at all. But I have always minimized his problems with stories of what it was like for me. "I think you'll survive."
I am conflicted on whether it's better or worse to have a helicopter mom. I think that it would be definitely bad if I were over-bearing as a father, but I don't do that. Wanna play sports, cool. Conflict with your sister or neighborhood kids, figure it out. etc.
The one told me that part of his frat initiation was being left out in the woods with a bunch of other pledges.
Almost none of them knew how to find direction at night by the stars. Pretty pathetic.
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They did it, you played a role in that, be proud of that.
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Would you be disappointed if I said, "No"?
have stepped in and reduced the agent's share of both. I get that some parents are just simply ridiculous but I see why they act that way towards agents.
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soccer coach this year would total about 3-5 minutes and involved saying thank you big time and giving him a $100 gift card because he was tremendous. What else do you want to know?
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Another comment from the Chucklesmog.
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