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Strategies for Manipulating a Narcissist
If there’s a narcissist in your life, it’s crucial to learn ways to manage their behavior and protect yourself, especially in situations where your safety is at risk. These strategies can help you manage such situations and give you the time needed to safely exit the relationship if you feel you're at risk of being physically or psychologically harmed.

If you're not having your needs met, whether the narcissist in your life is a friend or a romantic partner, it may be time to consider ending that relationship.

Fawning and Flattery Techniques
Using fawning and flattery is one of the most effective ways to manage a narcissist when they’re being difficult. Narcissists delight in anyone who showers them with praise. Appealing to their vanity can help you temporarily pacify them, giving yourself time and space to remove yourself from a problematic situation or get them to behave more positively.

If they are fussy about their appearance, compliment them effusively. Tell them they have a great sense of fashion or that they look attractive. Don’t hold back on praise, even when it seems undeserved. Make them feel valued by asking for their opinion or guidance, even with little things you likely don’t need help with. Fawning and flattery can help the narcissist in your life be more cooperative and less volatile.

While overpraising them might feel unnatural or forced, the goal is to ensure your safety and well-being, not reinforce their harmful behaviors.
Narcissists mask their insecurities with a false sense of superiority. And knowing that they’re seeking validation from others is what one can use to their advantage.

Tactful praise will most likely disarm them and possibly make them vulnerable, which a victim can use to their advantage to escape a situation, says Dr. Leslie Sanders, the Program Director at AToN Center, a Drug and Alcohol Treatment Center.

Appealing to Their Ego
No one has a bigger ego than a narcissist, and knowing when and how to appeal to their ego can help you skillfully gain temporary control over their actions and behavior. It’s crucial not to overplay your hand; try to be subtle and seemingly genuine. For instance, if a situation at work is causing them to lash out at you, prop up their ego by emphasizing their importance to the team or project.

Another way to boost their ego is to ask for their opinions and guidance on even the small stuff. Their inflated sense of self makes them feel not just valued and respected but indispensable in your life. Asking questions like “What would you suggest I do here?” or “How would you handle this challenge?” gives them a sense of control and importance.

Narcissists will typically try to make anyone who opposes them wrong, whereas they’ll befriend someone who agrees with their false sense of grandiosity. By adding to their ego, a narcissist will definitely confide in you in some capacity, which, again, can be leveraged, says Dr. Sanders.

Leveraging Their Insecurities
It might seem at odds with their overly confident personalities, but most narcissists are riddled with insecurities. You can take advantage of these vulnerabilities to control their behavior when worried for your well-being. Pay attention to the things that make them defensive or overly sensitive; these are usually their areas of insecurity.

Using a person’s insecurities against them likely goes against your ethos. It can also cause them long-term psychological harm and even escalate the situation you are trying to manage, especially if the narcissist feels exposed or humiliated. It’s crucial to use this strategy carefully, focusing on protecting yourself rather than maliciously hurting the other person.

While the intention behind this might be self-protection, one should also reflect on moralities that lie within deceitfulness, says Dr. Michelle Dees, a board-certified psychiatrist at Luxury Psychiatry Medical Spa. Ethics are not fixed, and their surroundings change depending on the intent and context involved in manipulating others’ behavior towards us.

For instance, manipulation can be seen as justifiable under the self-defense principle, where there is no other way out than manipulating, even though temporary measures should only apply until the danger subsides.
In certain situations, the narcissist may respond by lashing out. They may retaliate by becoming more hostile or also prey on your insecurities, creating a vicious cycle of negativity that will likely be more harmful to you than them. So, it’s essential to be tactful and focus on de-escalating the situation.

Your goal should be finding ways to navigate the relationship safely, not perpetuating harm. Use this strategy only when necessary to protect yourself or diffuse a dangerous situation.

Creating a False Sense of Control
When a narcissist believes they are in control, you can subtly guide them away from behaviors and actions that may be harmful to you. Narcissists feel a need to dominate people and situations; if they sense they are not in control, they may lash out. Creating a false sense of control doesn’t require relinquishing your power. Frame your ideas and requests as if they’re theirs so they feel like they are in the driver’s seat.

Another approach is to offer limited choices that lead to the same outcome you desire. Presenting options allows them to feel they are making the decision. For example, if you need them to complete a task, you might say, “Would you prefer to handle this project today or tomorrow?” Regardless of their choice, the task gets done within your required timeframe.

You can also weave in other techniques, such as appealing to their ego or fawning over them. When they make a decision beneficial to you, overpraise them; not only will this boost their ego, but it’ll also encourage them to continue making similar decisions that work in your favor.
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Link: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-manipulate-a-narcissist-8671825