need to address "Patriarchy" in the U.S. (and elsewhere)...she's a graduate of Note Dame...and one who continues working to promote her Catholic faith (see link)
There are TWO persons involved in this issue...you, and others, are failing to respect one of them...totally...and until that person's burden (hint: the woman's) is fairly dealt with , we will NEVER reach an acceptable solution...and the cause of that will be on your shoulders.
Link: https://www.americamagazine.org/voices/renee-darline-roden